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They want an easy life, and they make this clear, but this has nothing to do with being any good at solving problems or advising people. One of the give aways was that when you asked them what proves they are capable of helping others by being an agony aunt they would say well my friends come to me with their problems and tell me all about it. And people are always quick to ask for free opinions, that means nothing. The majority of people who come to you for free advice are not really wanting it at all, they just want to complain and get a sympathetic ear, they want someone to agree with them, they do not want you to work things out for them but to accept they have worked it out for themselves.If the complainer tells you that her boyfriend beats her up every day she does not want you to criticise himor to tell her what to do, deep down she knows all of this, she wants you to tut in the right places, make her feel better in the here and now. She may insist that he has promised not to do it again, or he pays the bills and she needs his money, but whatever the reason is it is up to her.You could say that if they are not bright enough to advise others they are not bright enough to realise this and need me to point it out. Yet you could tell by the way they contacted me and the things they said that they knew they were inadequate. Because they tell me that they cannot get a job, they were fired from Mc Donalds for being inadequate and slow and turning up late all the time, they want a job that pays a lot more than that but where they can work from home and feel important. Wanting to fill the blanks when nothing is being said.Not one word about being a capable person, not one word about caring for others, it is all about them. It does not mean that they value your opinion or want to hear it.Something so obvious the complainer would have already thought of it, but there must be a reason why they did not do it.It may be that there are no other local doctors, it may be that they have tried the others and they are worse, but never give such obvious advice to anyone with a brain. People will ask for their money back if you tell them something really obvious and expect to get paid for it.When a person works along as an agony aunt or advice columnist you get the same sort of daft advice more often.
The world is full of people who would love to earn £40 per hour but do not have enough skill, experience, talent or brains to be able to.
So if yhourf life is not sorted, if you have trouble in geting jobs and paying the bills and are not goode at reading and writing we think you would be wasting our time.
Our clients have unsorted lives and needcounsellor, nurse, or some other well and respectable profession.
A good advice columnist will get into the skin of the person and feel for them as well as just see what is going on.
You will not get this luxury if you write to a magazine or newspaper column where they often just write a few words very quickly because they are inundated, and usually they miss most of what you wrote because they are so busy, and usually they just send you a link to a website, something you could have found for yourself in ten with people, caring, sympathetic, intelligent, mature, reliable, who can stick to our deal of giving us at least five hours a week of their time in return for the £200 a week or more we offer them.
They go by principles and practical things instead of feelings, and forget that it is an emotional situation first and foremost for this person, with the practical things following after.